If you and your partner mostly agree on what you want to happen when you separate, you may not have to go to court. Going through the family court process can take a lot of time and cost a lot of money. It can also be a very emotional and stressful experience for you and your children.
Usually you need to discuss things with your partner before you can reach an agreement. You can discuss things in person, over the phone, or by email. You can talk to your partner on your own, with the help of someone you both trust, or with the help of a lawyer or mediator.
If you agree on one or more of your legal issues, you can put what you've agreed on in a separation agreement. The Step Make a separation agreement explains why making a separation agreement can be useful.